Double Standards!!!

I have the hardest time with double standards. I feel like people are sucking the air out of me when people decide to throw the double standard card up. Hells I hate when I use it on my kid. I feel that the rules apply to both sexes. Don't they?

Here's my frustration with it. I have lots of examples on this particular subject. here's my first example:

 I cuss like nobody's business. I may even curse more then a damn sailor. I have no filter because I don't feel like I should. I also don't expect for people to have a filter when expressing themselves. I hate the fact that society has said "Its okay for a man to curse like a sailor, but god forbid for a woman to speak like that.". Seriously you guys have no idea how much that gets under my skin. People may say "Well what kind of an example are you giving your child if you speak that way?". So only woman are parents? Is that it? Man don't have any effect on their children? Wow!
And let's be honest people, do you parents honestly believe that your child/children do not use those words/ language? Who's the naive one in this scenario? I can see young kids like any where from 5th graders and under, not using that kind of language. And that's pushing the age limit for me. But any child who is in middle school or higher, they are using bad language and alot of it. I know because I have a 14yr old and I know for a fact she cusses. Do I get upset about it? Not really, she's my kid for Christ sakes. What I do expect from her is to show respect to her teacher and not use that kind of language in front of then. And I will be honest I think I would be mortified if I ever find out that she cussed out one of her teachers. Knock on wood she hasn't done that yet but a part of me is always waiting for that phone call. LOL! But if I'm being honest I would love her not to use that kind of language only because now as an adult I'm learning that it can get you in trouble.

Another double standard is the whole sex thing. How is it possible that a man can have sex with let throw a number of 10thousand woman and he be considered the man of the year? A pimp as they like to claim themselves to be. Yet a woman is whore, a C@#t (I don't feel comfortable saying this word unless I'm about to cut a bitch.)for sleeping with that many man. Why is that? I feel like that's so unfair. Now please don't go around thinking I'm some sex addict and I'm having all kinds of sex with random people because thats not case.  All I'm saying is that if both sexes are having that much sex you are whores, but hey thats okay because at the end of the day if it makes you happy thats all that matters. I'm not judging and its NOT our business. Now if you want to tell us about your adventures thats on you and you shouldn't get upset when people react a certain way. Now I personally don't have any particular reaction or say on this only because I have known both male and females who have been escorts, and are still in the business. And yes I have called them a whore as a joke not being mean. I always make sure to tell them to be careful as well. It's kinda like woman who are strippers. Hey you want to take your clothes for money, for college money,or just because you have nothing better to do. Then by all means do it just watch yourself and be careful. Like Missy Elliots song says "Ain't no shame, ladies do your thang just make sure you ahead of the game." Like I've said before I hate double standards where they only single out woman.

They're some many more examples of double standards out there but these two are my top 2.

So for the general public STOP with double  standards!!! We are equals for Christ sakes.

Dating is so hard!

As a single person I have seen dating evolve in such a way that it leaves me scratching my head, baffled to say the least. 

I remember back in the day (not that I'm that old) you would meet people by mutual friends, blind dates, meeting at a store or gas station, or hells even the clubs. But now the thing to do (if you're my age) is online dating. Any body who still goes to the clubs at my age just looks like a creeper. Just saying!

At my age most people are married and have the "Perfect life", with the 2.5 kids, a cat and a dog, a nice big house with the white picket fence. But for those of us who don't have that we gotta try new things.

Online dating is funny to me. Man on these websites are hilarious. They all say the same thing, how they all want a honest, faithful, drama free woman. And depending on where you live they will all have the same hobbies. These man are not all  bad looking but they all have one thing in common. They all want a "Trophy Wife" or an "Easy Lay". To the guys who are looking for "Trophy Wife" all I can say is your on the wrong websites. You don't go looking for a "Trophy Wife" on a free dating site.

On my profile, on these online dating websites (Yes I'm on more then 1 website), I'm honest about myself. That includes my age, my appearance, my wants, dislikes and so on. I'm an extremely drama free person due to the fact that I live about 3thousands miles away from my family. Don't lie on anything because eventually they will figure it out. I try not judge any of guys by their looks because at the end looks fade away, but I do need feel some type of attraction. I'm also honest about having a child. Wouldn't want to date guy who isn't okay with me having a kid. And let me just put this out there for all you single ladies you don't have to settle on the first guy who says hello to you on these websites. For the most part, most of the guys on these website want is a good lay. If I see guy on these websites that I like I will send them a message say "Hi" or "Hello". You may ask "that's it"? I do that because I want to see if they can start a conversation with me. Sometimes I will ask them about something I read on their profile. If a guy can start a conversation with me from "Hi" or "Hello" that to me means that the guy is smart and may have a chance with me. So for you fellas reading this is maybe a chance to get an inside look on what some woman want and are looking for. At my age I would more then just looks. I want someone smart who I can hold a conversation with. There's nothing worse then having a conversation with some who doesn't even understand what you are saying because they feel like you're using big words. Now I'm not saying that I'm some book worm or some smarty pants but I do have some knowledge and good conversation with might just get you lucky. Just saying... Also this only applies to me, not every woman.

Now for the fellas. Guys if you're not interested please don't be rude all you have to due is not answer. But if you do reply, please reply in a nice way that you're not interested. You can just simply say "Not Interested". Trust me when I say we get it. I had once sent a message to a to a guy who I was interested and I knew I wasn't his type a message and he was really rude. I messaged him about his tattoo's and he automatically thought I was trying hit on him. I know when a guy is out of my league but fellas don't be assholes about it. Sometimes I message guys because I like something about their profile. Maybe you have cute dog, a nice tattoo, a cute kid. Just because I message you doesn't mean I'm interested in you in that way. Sometimes I message you because I think we can be good friends.

And for all the single fellas and ladies who may be reading this, you don't have to be on just one website. Try as many as you can get on. Just remember that the free one you may not get good results. Where as the ones that you have pay for you may get better results. I'm on the free ones because well as I am a single mother I have to save my pretty pennies for my kid's needs. Be open to the people you talk to, be honest about what you want and are looking for in your potential other half. But most importantly be honest with yourself on what you want. You may think you ready to date but in reality your not.

Anywho that's my insight on this online dating. God! Who knew dating would became so hard! I sure as hell didn't.

Hope you guys are enjoying my posts and as my friends say to me Happy Hunting! HAHAHAHA!!!!  

To all my Single People,

So where are all my single parents or single people? Ever go on a blind date and wonder "Where did I go wrong?", or "How did I end up here?".

Well that's exactly what happened to me this past weekend. I want to say I got catfished but the truth is I wasn't. I was given false advertising. I didn't get catfished what I did get was hoodwinked.
I try not to judge anyone by their appearance but most of us have certain things we like. Maybe we can over look them if the person is genuine. Now I'm not saying that I'm like some drop dead gorgeous woman because I'm not. What I will say about myself is I have great personality. I know what your thinking oh god she's ugly but in all honesty I'm descent looking with a great personality. Sure I can stand to lose weight, but I'm up front and honest when I meet people about my looks.

As a single parent I don't have much time to go to clubs and meet guys. Aside from the fact I'm to old and meeting someone at a club really won't end with a happy story ending. Maybe a good lay but no real romance. And the chances of meeting Mr. Right at the grocery store are slim to none. So I'm trying online dating, which is kinda scary. I hear all kinds of horror stories which make me think twice, but I have decide to give it a try. I will not say what dating site I'm using but I will say its a free one. I have met some nice guys and some rude guys.

Like I have mentioned already I went on semi-date this past weekend. You may ask what is a semi-date? We met in a public place (The public place being his work) making it a semi-date because he had work that night. Which I was glad because I dint know what kind of person he might have been. He did not look anything like his picture. That's where the false advertising comes into play. The picture he used on the website was one of him about 10yrs ago. So imagine my surprise when I met him. The man looked like he had just rolled out bed. I know he was going to work after we met but he could have tried to look clean. Here's the thing we all have something we notice when we meet people. It can be the person eyes, hands, legs, hells the persons butt. Well the first thing I notice is a persons teeth. I use to be a DA (Dental Assistant) so of course I'm going to course I'm going to look at his teeth. My god it looked like he forgot to brush his teeth for like a week. Now I'm not trying to be mean because not. First impressions are important to me. We had somewhat descent conversation but I felt like we didn't have much in common. He seems like a very nice guy who I would rather be friends with. I did make him aware that I was dating other people and that I wasn't looking for anything serious. I wasn't lying about that, because the truth of it all is that right now I'm just trying to figure out who I am and what I want in a man.

Like I have said before I have only had 2 serious relationships. I didn't date much when my child was younger because well I was always to busy taking care of her that I really didn't have much time to date. Aside from the fact my situation was different then what it is now. Now I'm not saying that I didn't have my adventures and get my needs met, because I did. But now my daughter is growing up and pretty soon (in 4 years) she will be leaving to go to college. I have pretty much giving up my life her, and I have enjoyed every minute of it but now its time for me to find my happy ending.

The one thing I have learned from this date is that I need to go on every date with an open mind. To ask for a recent picture before meeting. And most importantly always meet in a public place (which I did).

Can't wait to for my next online dating adventure. :)

Hello Everyone!

My name is Adrianne and I'm a 35yr old single mom to a wonderful 13 (soon to be 14yr old) daughter. I decide to start this blog because I feel like people steroetype single moms.

I'm proud to be a single mom. I've never been married. My daughter is everything to me. I think its funny how society still stereotypes people.

For example:

I have tattoos and piercings and I get all kinds of looks from people. I hear them say things like "Look at her, how does she expect to find a job looking like that?". So in return I ask 'What makes you think I don't have a job?''. Of course by then they don't say any else and they usually have a sour puss face and walk away. My favorite is when people see me and just assume I've been to jail, because I have tattoos.

Another example is:

I'm a single mom who has never been married has had maybe 2 serious relationship my whole life. I'm no skinny minnie and dont try to mold myself to societies perfect woman. With that said I would like to add that no I'm not like some 300lbs person either. I'm a lil curvey (No I'm not giving my exact weight) but I will say I could stand to lose some weight. I'm so sick and tired to hear people ask me the same questions like "How do you expect to find a man?" or my favorite "You're not getting any younger, shouldn't you try to loss weight to get a man, any man?"

First of all I shouldn't have to settle for any man just because I'm not a size 0 or because I look a certain way. I want single moms who have gone or are going thru this to know you're not alone.

So with that said I just want to say that really this blog is for me to share my expriences with those who want hear them. No subject is taboo for me. I'm opened to just about all subjects, including my daughter. I'm sure there will be times when I will ask for advice. So if you got some please do share with the rest of us. I don't want people to be negective. You as a reader may not agree with me and that's okay, as long as you respect my thoughts. You can comment if you want but be respectfull and I will respect your thoughts and opinions as well.